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My dad coughed up some blood in January this year. Four days later we were told that he had lung cancer. There was a 6- centimeter diameter mass growing on an inoperable part of his lung and there was break away cancer in his liver.

My dad did not look or feel sick. My dad died last month, and I held his hand while he drifted away.

He was a warm caring man with a big heart. He used to wipe away my tears with his strong hands. I wrote the following poem while my dad was sick and read it at his funeral. It will reveal to you my selfishness.

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I know these feelings oh so well! thank you for puttin my pain into words!xx
I can totally relate to this poem, absolutely miss my dad so much. This poem truly touches the way I feel right now. My dad died of lung cancer, and pnumonia, -- tells us how bad smoking can really be. We didn't know he had cancer untill the start of this year, I also held my dad's hand while he passed away, it's such a sad experience. It's hard to believe how he's gone. It's be about 2 months since then. I still can't believe he's gone. This poem is great.
It's an amazing poem! My dad left us and I still love him! It's a wonderful poem and I love it
THis poem made me cry. it just touched my heart so much. i juss wish i could bring him back to life. i know one day we are gonna be together but i wanna be with my dad as soon as possible. this poems is really good.

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He Must Have Life

I don't wish for death to ease his pain
I am too selfish for that
He must have life

I must be able to hear of his life
He must continue to sing to me
I need to see his beautiful baby blues
sparkle and shine

I don't want to just remember these things

Even in his pain they sparkle and shine

I need him to be here to show me who I am
To show me where I came from
If he left, part of me would leave
I would be someone different

I need to touch and hug him
To let him know how important he is

I don't want to remember these things
To feel the pain that I will feel
when my memories of him start to fade

I want him here with us
I want him here with no pain
I love you, my Dad

All through my troubled and sad childhood,
through my rebellious adolescence and through adulthood,
I always knew that you loved me

I hope you knew that I always loved you too

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I too was selfish when I lost my Mother - my best-friend - to lung cancer. I sat holding her hand in those final minutes, telling her it was ok - she could let go - my lips on her cheek as she let out her last breath. and all the while on the inside screaming "NO! You can't leave me here alone. please hold on. DOn't let go!'' I understand. and I am so terribly sorry for your pain. We are selfish, we are human, and it is ok
this poem touched me alot. this is my first birthday without my father. he passed away April 15 2006 (about 6 months ago). almost everything that u said in the poem pertains to my situation. keep up the good writing
Loved the poem, touched the heart. My father passed away from cirrhosis, from drinking too much. I was held his hand up until his last heart beat. I was 16yrs old, so he missed my graduation, prom, college move-in day and everything. Although that is sorta selfish, I really just wanted him to be with me through all these things. I still have some anger toward him, for leaving us, but your poem easied just a little bit of that. Thanks
I'm sorry for your loss, i know what your going through, my dad died just 3 weeks ago, and he meant the world to me.
I haven't lost one of my parents, but when I read this poem it really touched my heart!
i can relate to your story! i lost my dad to just last year! i cant accept the fact that his not here anymore until now! you make me cry!
This poem made me remember my father. I don't know of anyone who could not relate to the feelings expressed in this poem. Excellent job
This poem is amazing and has also summed up how I felt during my Dads illness, we have just lost him to lung cancer too. I felt the same selfishness you describe, so this poem has really touched me, and has made me feel so emotional, it helps to know I'm not alone in the way I was feeling. Thankyou
As I sat here and read this poem it brought tears to my eyes. its simply beautiful . my dad passed away in december 31, 2005. and its sooo hard. i miss him sooo much and i love him. the pain in my heart it hurts soo much .
i love this poem its quite sad. i liked the way u expressed your feelings! i think expressing and telling people your feelings makes them a bit better! writing them dwn is another realy good way of describing and expressing your fellings!i realy enjoyed it!
i really liked your poem. im sorry for the loss. i just lost my uncle to lung cancer on february 22 and i know how it feels to lose someone
That was a beautiful poem it really touched me. My grandpaw died in 2001 from lung cancer and he was like a dad to me. You described all my feelings in your poem. It is beautiful!
I lost my father to lung cancer in March 2005. This poems says exactly what I was feeling as I watched him fade away. We only had 7 months with him from diagnosis to his death. Great Job in summing up your feelings.
My mom died of lung cancer when i was seven. Now im sixteen and missing her more than ever! it will be 9 years this up coming saturday! I know how you feel and your poem touched my heart completly!
i love this poem because its great and it relates to my father. when he died last month of my 16th b-day i found out he had a disease called chirosis. its a liver disease because of his drinking and when he died his heart, liver, and heart all stopped working at once. :( well thanx for the help with these poems i have been looking for some good ones to put in my fathers scrapbook and these are the ones! ;)
your poem is so beautiful i know how u must feel about your dad cuz my dad died of cancer 2
this was a good poem i just lost my dad i really lik eur poem
I vote for this poem because it is really nice i haven't lost my father or mother but this poem still has a very strong feeling
One of my closest friends recently lost her father to lung cancer, he coughed up blood just like the your father. I have only met her father twice, but knowing that she loved him and that her and her two sisters and mother, are going to be without a father. This poem touched my heart and made me think of all of the things that she will be missing/thinking. My prayers and thoughts are out for all who suffer a loss. I am deeply and truely sorry for your loss.
ey gud poem n im sry bout ur dad i no he ment da world to but he will always be in yo hart
just to say how much your poem touched me
This poem is great and it described how I felt after I lost my dad to a heart attack last year.
Excellent poem. My dad passed away 5 days ago from lung cancer that had spread to his brain and liver. Losing my Dad has left me numb. I love you Dad. Memories will keep you alive in my heart forever.
I lost my father on May 23,2005. Your poem reflects the very feeling that troubled me the most, pain or freedom from pain. (he died of colon cancer that spread to his liver/lungs). Thank you for sharing.
that touched me i lost my dad in jan of 05 he woke up that morning huged me kissed me on the cheek and told me he loved me and everything is going to be alright. and left with out neightbor. 30 min later we get a call saying my dad had passed away. his heart exploded. that poem means alot but there is one thing that i wish is that i could still be able to hold and tell him everyday that i love him. you did a great job on that my dad would have loved that poem.
This Poem is just what i felt the day he (my dad) died almost 3 years ago and still how i feel. The poem made me cry and wish he was standind here with me
i love this poem my dad past away feb 20 2005 it still hurts
that was a beautiful and sad poem. I loved it alot. my grandpa has cancer it gets scary.
hi your poems remind me of me you must have been daddy's girl i know i was my dad died 3-27-1999 and i miss him very ,very much daddy i love you very much your little girl pamiee
Really liked your poem. I'm 17 and lost my grandad to cancer on August 31st. I'm sorry you lost your dad. Hope you keep writing, you're good at it x
This poem touched me so much I'm crying as I write this. Beautifull, absolutely beautifull.
Your poem was so beautiful I was holding back tears you have a true talent. I never really had a dad, he could care less about me but I did have my uncle but he passed away in March of 04 of a disease in his lungs and kidneys. I sat on his bed for threee hours and held his hand as he died. Good luck with gettign over the loss of your father. I will keep you in my prayers.
Your beautiful words struck a very deep chord with me. Thank you.
Although it wasn't my dad that just passed away I loved your poem. My grandmother passed away the 4th of October, two days before my birthday, from cancer of the jaw. I couldn't stand to see her but the day she passed away I wanted to skip school to stay with her. I loved this poem because it really hit home. I've never had to deal with a death so close but when I read this poem it made me feel like it was okay to let go.
Your poem has changed my life.
Sorry about your father. My mother passed away also and it touched me because i was also selfish and did not want her to die even though she was in pain. very good poem, written from the heart.
My father died 4 days after i had my baby boy. He never got the chance to see him. He also had lung cancer that he's been fighting for years. Some how he knew he wasn't going to make it this time. I would pray i would get out of the hospital in time so he could see his grandchild. But he died that same morning i was getting out. My family had a chance to say good bye. I just wish i had just one more second with him. This Poem said what i was feeling.
i really loved the poem . i can say i had more tears than my sister when my dad died i was only 4 well i really loved your poem
i think this really expresses the love hate relationship between dad and daughter
OMG your poem was so touching! I just loved it! It was amazing
My father just died last month, March 2004 of lung cancer. He was so sick that it would have been inhumane for him to continue living, but I was also selfish and wanted him to live regardless. My mother passed away 10 years ago, when I was 16, so my father was all that I had left, and I was not ready to let him go.
i liked that poem it touch my heart and made me think about my dad that is dead. i miss him too.
I loved your poem it really seemed to capture what we all feel when someone dies. I know what your father went through, I was recently freed from my burden of Non-Hodgkins Lymphoma, and now I write about it like you do. I hope you keep writing, for some it is their only way to show their true feelings.
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